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Your Past Is Not Your Only Possible Future

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Your Past Is Not Your Only Possible Future is a short visual guide for moments connected to how to stop worrying.

It covers one core idea: the philosopher contrasts etiology—the explanation of behavior by past causes—with teleology, that is, the question of the current goal of the….

You will after the question “why am I like this?”

add: “what does this reaction help to avoid or achieve now?”, then choose what fits next.

The aim is more choice around worry, not a promise of zero anxiety.

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Working edition 1Published July 22, 2026Last reviewed August 2, 2026Written and developed by · LinkedIn ↗Editorial standardsSuggest a correction

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Check your starting point: Your Past Is Not Your Only Possible Future

When worry gets louder than everything else and demands an answer right now…

Notice what fits this situation today:

  • Teleology: what purpose does the reaction serve now?
  • Anger can be used as a tool of influence
  • The meaning of an experience is not the same as the event itself
  • I am not sure yet—I just want to understand

After this guide

Keep the next step small.

More choice around worry, not a promise of zero anxiety.

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Sources & evidence

Where this guide comes from

The book is the editorial starting point. The research below checks or qualifies the broader ideas used in this guide.

Open book and research details

Adapted from

The Courage to Be Disliked

How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

Chapter 1, “Deny Trauma” · source pages 20–56

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Written by
Ichiro Kishimi (opens in a new tab)Certified counselor and consultant for the Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology; the publisher does not present him as a physician., Fumitake Koga (opens in a new tab)Professional writer and author; not presented by the publisher as a clinician.
Edition used
Diamond, Inc. (original Japanese edition); Atria Books (cited English edition), 2013 · ISBN 9781501197277
Formal review
The edition does not identify a formal peer-review or clinical-review panel. Media reviews listed by the publisher are not clinical review.
Editorial limitations of this book source
  • Popular presentation of Adlerian philosophy, not a clinical treatment manual.
  • The book's categorical denial of trauma conflicts with contemporary clinical knowledge and must not be repeated as fact.
  • Personal-choice framing can understate biological, social, economic, and safety constraints.

Research context

Supporting and qualifying references

Reviewed 2026-08-04

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    Clinical Guideline · 2018

    Post-traumatic stress disorder (opens in a new tab)

    What it supports: Traumatic events can have clinically significant and persistent psychological consequences that require recognition, assessment, and evidence-based care.

    Limits and disclosures

    Limit: UK guideline; it does not imply that every difficult past event causes PTSD or determines a person's future.

    Disclosure: Guideline committee conflict processes are governed by NICE.

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    Peer Reviewed Meta Analysis · 2023

    Targeting intolerance of uncertainty in treatment: A meta-analysis of therapeutic effects, treatment moderators, and underlying mechanisms (opens in a new tab)

    What it supports: Evidence-based anxiety treatments can reduce intolerance of uncertainty, and change is associated with symptom improvement.

    Limits and disclosures

    Limit: The review covers full treatments, not isolated philosophical reframes or brief self-help prompts.

    Disclosure: Authors declared no financial or non-financial competing interests.

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    Peer Reviewed Meta Analysis · 2018

    Cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety and related disorders: A meta-analysis of randomized placebo-controlled trials (opens in a new tab)

    What it supports: CBT is moderately efficacious for anxiety and related disorders compared with placebo controls.

    Limits and disclosures

    Limit: Evidence supports structured therapy, not the clinical equivalence of a short educational guide.

    Disclosure: No relationship to NotMyNoise identified.